How many of you guys out there have been guilty of settling? Raise your hands. I have been guilty of this far too many times. Remember when you were younger and your mother said not to touch the hot stove and you did ?. Sometimes you know better but hey you do things anyway.
Is it laziness? Is it a feeling not being good enough? Why do we settle?
My interpretation of settling is simple. It means putting up with less than you deserve. When you entertain people, thoughts, emotions and circumstances that are not aligned with your true beliefs or goals. Basically, things that have no positive effect on personal growth.
After a little self-reflection, I have determined three reasons why I have settled in the past and what I have learnt. Let me know if you can relate. Continue reading
The other day, while in conversation with a few friends at work, one of them mentioned why he doesn’t believe in bad days.
“You can have bad moments, but that doesn’t mean you’re having a bad day.”
This kind of stuck with me. So much so, that I came home that night and hand painted the phrase “a bad momet does not make a bad day” as a reminder to myself. Now..well I’m writing an entire blog post about it.
We are naturally more likely to hold onto the bad moments than the good ones. And, when the bad moments happens toward the end of the work day, you’re even more likely to bring these negative feelings home with you and suddenly, you’ve had a bad day. In reality, the day may have been just fine, great even – but the bad things that brought you down is the most recent and vivid memory you have of your day, so you’re going to hold onto it a little longer. Continue reading