#BunTingStory: I Learned to Ask These Three Questions

One of the areas I truly value in my relationships with my hubby is our open communication. Even in those early dating years, we would talk for hours. We talked about our careers, our dreams, our love of music, our relationship with God and so much more. I was always amazed that we could find so much to discuss. It was then we agreed to be willing to be transparent with each other.

Years later, this continues to be one of the strongest areas in our marriage. Now, don’t misunderstand me. Although I am thankful we can talk so freely with each other; sometimes I didn’t want open communication. I didn’t want to hear what he has to say. Because to talk about and through our issues means dealing with some messy and uncomfortable areas. It means dealing with my feelings of anger because he can’t or won’t agree with my point of view. Yet, being willing to talk also meant working toward healing and growth. Meaningful communication meant working toward a healthier version of us.

Even though we talked about a lot, I realized there were a lot of assumptions I made regarding what my hubby thought, experienced, and needed. From this realization, I learned to ask these three questions. Continue reading

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#BunTingStory: A Weekend Jaunt to Salatiga

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As a working person with limited number of leave days, I’m always happy whenever I manage to do a quick weekend getaway – it may be short and doesn’t leave much time for exploration, but sometimes you just need that quick rejuvenation.

One of my favorite things to do recently is take quick trips on the warm weekends. It doesn’t have to be far – a friends house, visit your parents, even just a day at the beach – I just love the drive with the windows down and the almost-instant relaxation that sets in when you leave the city. The best part about quick trips is they can be spontaneous, just grab a few essentials and go!

So…What to do on my weekend getaway to Salatiga? Continue reading

Weekend Snapshots: Pandanaran Art Festival 2016

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Happy Monday!

I feel like it was a lifetime since I wrote Weekly Photo Challenge post. So this is a light picture post as far as Weekly Photo Challenge posts go, but it was still a great one. These photos are the last from my weekend. They were taken on Sunday afternoon right after Iting and I finished our side job as event organizer. Continue reading

#BunTingStory: Why We Didn’t Go On Our Honeymoon After Our Wedding

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In our first week, we didn’t fly off to the honeymoon. Hangus deh hotel dan tetek bengeknya yang udah dibooking online jauh-jauh hari. Rupanya masih ada satu sesi tradisi jawa yang kudu kami lalui setelah menikah, belum boleh pergi kalo belum ‘sepasar’. Sepasar itu itu apa saya juga gag begitu paham. Agak konyol syh memang menurut saya, tapi yasudahlah saya berusaha menghormati tradisi. Salah saya sendiri juga kenapa gag tanya sana sini sebelum merencanakan liburan. So…we spent time unpacking, opening wedding gifts, and merging our lives together. Yah…tung-itung istirahat karena badan masih capek habis nikahan. We ate leftovers from our reception on the floor of our living room, while sorting through gifts. We we went back to work on Wednesday. Ppfftttt….

Gagal honeymoon ini sebenarnya bikin sedikit kecewa, tapi setelah saya pikir-pikir ada sisi positifnya juga kok diskip dulu honeymoonnya. On a financial note, I am so glad that we didn’t embark on a trip right away. As any current or past bride knows, getting married is expensive! Additionally, a lot of the cost creeps up right at the end of the process, and even on the day of. It was a relief.

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