Q&A: Things You Should Know As An Adult, Exposing Life After College

Well, sort of.

Over the years (and by years, I mean the last five years I’ve been considered “an adult”), I’ve realized that very few of us actually know how to be adults. And it’s not to say that we are immature or anything. We just lack the knowledge when it comes to things we should already know how to do.

And who’s to blame for this? Your parents, your teachers, your friends? Maybe all of the above? Regardless, now that we’re adults, it’s your turn to take the torch. Investing in yourself is the foundation for becoming a wise, well-functioning adult.

Considering that I’m probably no more of an adult than you are, I’ve recruited some help. Some of the “adultiest” adults I know shared some ideas of what they thought were most important when it comes to being an adult. I’ve decided to share these things with you, in hopes that we can all grow up together. Continue reading

I Can Survive Anything

Okay. So here we are again. I don’t really know what this post will be about yet but I had the “urge” or need to write for over a week now. At first, I had another topic in mind, which eventually never happened because I either was too tired or afraid to write it down – you never know who will read your blog in the end and how they’ll see you afterwards. I concluded that I can’t force specific topics and issues, so whenever I feel to write or talk about something, I will do it. And if I just want to ramble, I will do it.

And today I will ramble and probably talking a lot of nonsense. This is just because I have so much going on. I can feel my mood swinging very often and just be mentally exhausted. I know for a fact that I am not physically tired, even though I rarely get my 8 hours sleep. Sometimes I’m just tired of having to function, to work, socialize, walk around or even send a simple message via WhatsApp. I don’t know which is worse; being in a room full of people, or being alone with my thoughts. Both are debilitating. I could stay in bed all day and still be tired. Tired and unsatisfied.

It’s been a while since I journaled. How have I been doing? Really well, thanks for asking. It’s been hella busy, but I’m handling things better than I thought I would.

I did have a meltdown in the beginning of the year when I was suddenly hit with all the shit I had to do. I felt myself sinking, and I thought I wouldn’t be able to get out.

But I did. I always do. Continue reading

Saham Untuk Pemula: Hal-Hal Yang Perlu Kamu Tahu!

Postingan pertama tahun 2019!

Hai hai…akhirnya hadir kembali di blog ini. Demi tercapainya resolusi 2019 untuk lebih banyak bikin #PostinganBerfaedah, mari awali tulisan kali ini dengan membahas yang rada berbobot dikit. Untuk kamu followers saya di Twitter dan Instagram mungkin tahu kalo beberapa waktu lalu saya sempat menulis cuitan di Twitter dan postingan Instagram Stories tentang saham. Rupanya dari sini dapet feedback yang gag saya duga. Banyak pertanyaan dan berbagai respon seputar postingan saya itu.

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Nah! Untuk menjawab semua itu, sesuai hasil voting, maka pembahasan seputar saham akan saya tulis di sini ya. Saya akan berusaha menjelaskan sesederhana mungkin agar mudah dimengerti. Sekali lagi, di sini posisi saya bukan sebagai ahli ekonomi atau pakar yang ahli banget ya, saya pun juga terus belajar dari waktu ke waktu. Apa yang saya bagi sesuai dengan pengalaman saya sendiri, jadi mungkin kamu bisa pakai ini sebagai tambahan referensi aja biar pikiranmu lebih terbuka. Tentunya kamu juga harus cari-cari referensi lain yang lebih relevan ya untuk menunjang informasi yang saya sampaikan.

Baiklah mari kita mulai, ehem! Continue reading

Take Control

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I can honestly say that November/December has been quite a bittersweet month for me. It has been ripe with financial mishaps, tons of work stress and various other happenings that would make a really juicy telenovela…Life.

Let’s just say that I have not been my most vibrant, positive self. I am often disappointed that I am not Wonder Woman and as a result, I can’t fix all the problems of the world. Is that a trait of all women or just my overly obsessive gemini moon tendencies?

I found myself in desperate need of a spiritual pick me up. It is a  work in progress. I decided to share this with you because I love spreading good vibes and you like me may be tired, stressed or just need a little boost.

Here are mine…

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Add a Little Zen

Hi there lovelies,

It has been a while since I have been in this space. These past few months have been a mishmash of all things crazy. Highs and lows and everything in between. I found myself feeling quite uninspired and literally wanting to take a nap until the year ends.

When I find myself feeling off-balance I always look for ways to get myself centered again because I am totally useless to those nearest and dearest to me when I am not functioning at my peak. Let’s face it none of us are. Life can just throw you some curve balls but you just have to take the hit and keep on moving.’ Continue reading

When I am Extremely Busy

It is a busy busy world out there, and at times it feels like there’s just not enough hours in the day to conquer it all. A full time job, pregnancy, healthy eating, a social life, extracurricular activities, and we’re supposed to rest? How are we supposed to keep up????

I think finding balance in our day to day lives takes effort. Balance is hard, but it is doable. These are ways that I’ve found work for me when I juggle one billion things happening at once & I hope they work for you too! Continue reading

LESSONS LEARNED FROM 2 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

Last month marked 2 years of being married to my wonderful husband and I am so thankful to be his wife. Our first 2 years of marriage was interesting and challenging. Marriage brought out our best strengths and weaknesses.

It doesn’t matter whether you dated 3 weeks or 7 years before getting married, your spouse will constantly surprise you with something new.

So here’s a little breakdown of what I’ve learned so far. Continue reading

Pregnancy Journey: I’m Pregnant + My First Trimester Story

Ok, so this blog comes a little late. I’m now 13 weeks and 2 days pregnant, meaning I’m well into my second trimester. That’s right guys!!! I’m pregnant! I can’t even tell you how relieved I am just share this news with all of you. I don’t know if you noticed over the past few months, but I kept talking on Instagram story.

So today, I thought I’d share an honest little recap of what my first trimester was like.

It took us almost 2 years to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Typing it out right now, that number doesn’t seem very long. I mean, most chapters of life—whether school-related, professional or personal—last longer than that. And I know that many couples battle to get pregnant for years and years and years, and a number like 2 might be laughable to them.

But I will say that those years were the longest of my life. We started out how most couples start out: “not not trying.” And when nothing happened, we started “trying trying.” You know: taking vitamins, altering lifestyles, etc. And when nothing came from that, we kind of just floated along, too scared to take the next step.

The darkest part of the journey, though, was my miscarriage last year. Continue reading

It’s Okay To Feel Lost In Your Twenties

Growing up, I always thought that I’d be happy when I reached my twenties. It seemed like such a grown-up number. People in their twenties were young, carefree… They could do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted because they were adults. Parents couldn’t tell them what to do anymore.

Since reaching this oh-so-magical time in my life, I realise that things are a bit more complicated than I initially thought they would be. Even though I really hate using the term “complicated” to describe life, you should all know it’s accurate, nevertheless. The reality is that we can’t just waltz off and do whatever we want. We all have responsibilities – and if we don’t have responsibilities, we need money to get anywhere. This was something I never had to think about as a child. I don’t think I would have been able to understand it, anyway.

So here I am, in my late twenties, wondering if I’m living my life wrong. Deep down I still think that I should be happy simply because I’m supposedly “grown-up” and young. I think this feeling is often reinforced by other members of society – particularly, though not always, an older crowd that has the best of intentions.

I don’t understand where the concept of being carefree in your twenties even comes from. At this point in time, we’re still trying to figure out what we want from life and how to go about getting it. At times, we question the decisions we’ve made – should we have chosen differently? Continue reading

Hey There!

Hey there, lonely soul. Hello. Welcome to my mind. Well, maybe you’re not so lonely. Maybe you’re curious. Or you want to read something. Or you’re just bored. Maybe you’re here for the first time. Maybe you’re trying to judge me. Maybe you want to know me. Maybe you’re just trying to get through unread posts on your reader.

Well, so here we are. In my mind. I’ll give you a tour, eh? I won’t take you everywhere. Just where it’s safe. And I don’t have to worry about you prying around, either. So go ahead. Picture my mind any way you want. Let’s go down this lane.

It’s a battle keeping up with these word prompts. A battle with time. And my mind.

I have so much to do. And I want to read more, too. And I have to think about what I’m going to do with my life. Also, I’ve set unrealistic goals for the weekend (again) which shall go unfulfilled (again) and that shall leave me annoyed. It’s not my fault. The mind has been whispering. Doubts, fears.

The mind is uneasy. Everyday is another battle. To keep that balance between thinking and not think.

I want to exercise. Mind, soul and body. I want to get up earlier and be productive.

I want a change of routine. I want this endless road to bend. I want something that would excite me, something that would inspire. My words have been kind to me. Never do they leave the mind. I have been neglecting them, I know. They have been starting to get quite difficult of late. They, too, want a change of expression. Rebellious, ungrateful. They never even realize how much I do for them. However, ‘I’  in turn must not be ungrateful. They are a blessing, they could be taken away any time. I must cherish them.

It is another battle to see the same people every day, to disagree on the same things, to put up with the same ignorance and backwardness and still be nice. Apart from family, and that too only the most direct relations, how much sooner one tires of human company than of anything else. Cats, independent, detached creatures, infinitely cleverer than us (Though only metaphorically).

It is also a battle to be good. Evil tempts you. No matter how much one tries to purify one’s heart, it will always remain contaminated. No matter how much you try, you have been too infected. It is a battle to be kind. Especially those who don’t deserve it. But God knows you’re a monster inside, and if you start classifying and judging people, He could call you out on it.

It’s a battle to be. Continue reading