Add a Little Zen

Hi there lovelies,

It has been a while since I have been in this space. These past few months have been a mishmash of all things crazy. Highs and lows and everything in between. I found myself feeling quite uninspired and literally wanting to take a nap until the year ends.

When I find myself feeling off-balance I always look for ways to get myself centered again because I am totally useless to those nearest and dearest to me when I am not functioning at my peak. Let’s face it none of us are. Life can just throw you some curve balls but you just have to take the hit and keep on moving.’ Continue reading

It’s Okay To Feel Lost In Your Twenties

Growing up, I always thought that I’d be happy when I reached my twenties. It seemed like such a grown-up number. People in their twenties were young, carefree… They could do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted because they were adults. Parents couldn’t tell them what to do anymore.

Since reaching this oh-so-magical time in my life, I realise that things are a bit more complicated than I initially thought they would be. Even though I really hate using the term “complicated” to describe life, you should all know it’s accurate, nevertheless. The reality is that we can’t just waltz off and do whatever we want. We all have responsibilities – and if we don’t have responsibilities, we need money to get anywhere. This was something I never had to think about as a child. I don’t think I would have been able to understand it, anyway.

So here I am, in my late twenties, wondering if I’m living my life wrong. Deep down I still think that I should be happy simply because I’m supposedly “grown-up” and young. I think this feeling is often reinforced by other members of society – particularly, though not always, an older crowd that has the best of intentions.

I don’t understand where the concept of being carefree in your twenties even comes from. At this point in time, we’re still trying to figure out what we want from life and how to go about getting it. At times, we question the decisions we’ve made – should we have chosen differently? Continue reading

Hey There!

Hey there, lonely soul. Hello. Welcome to my mind. Well, maybe you’re not so lonely. Maybe you’re curious. Or you want to read something. Or you’re just bored. Maybe you’re here for the first time. Maybe you’re trying to judge me. Maybe you want to know me. Maybe you’re just trying to get through unread posts on your reader.

Well, so here we are. In my mind. I’ll give you a tour, eh? I won’t take you everywhere. Just where it’s safe. And I don’t have to worry about you prying around, either. So go ahead. Picture my mind any way you want. Let’s go down this lane.

It’s a battle keeping up with these word prompts. A battle with time. And my mind.

I have so much to do. And I want to read more, too. And I have to think about what I’m going to do with my life. Also, I’ve set unrealistic goals for the weekend (again) which shall go unfulfilled (again) and that shall leave me annoyed. It’s not my fault. The mind has been whispering. Doubts, fears.

The mind is uneasy. Everyday is another battle. To keep that balance between thinking and not think.

I want to exercise. Mind, soul and body. I want to get up earlier and be productive.

I want a change of routine. I want this endless road to bend. I want something that would excite me, something that would inspire. My words have been kind to me. Never do they leave the mind. I have been neglecting them, I know. They have been starting to get quite difficult of late. They, too, want a change of expression. Rebellious, ungrateful. They never even realize how much I do for them. However, ‘I’  in turn must not be ungrateful. They are a blessing, they could be taken away any time. I must cherish them.

It is another battle to see the same people every day, to disagree on the same things, to put up with the same ignorance and backwardness and still be nice. Apart from family, and that too only the most direct relations, how much sooner one tires of human company than of anything else. Cats, independent, detached creatures, infinitely cleverer than us (Though only metaphorically).

It is also a battle to be good. Evil tempts you. No matter how much one tries to purify one’s heart, it will always remain contaminated. No matter how much you try, you have been too infected. It is a battle to be kind. Especially those who don’t deserve it. But God knows you’re a monster inside, and if you start classifying and judging people, He could call you out on it.

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Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed today. I say this because it was a perfectly ordinary morning yet I feel so disappointed within. Its noon now and my mind is filled with negativity. It is one of those days when one wakes up and all of their life’s struggles and worst memories hit them like a storm. And the heart’s spirit sinks so low, there seems to be no hope of hope dwelling in it again. At such times, all one wants to do is talk to someone about it all. Just that. Be heard.

But time plays a cruel joke and one is left all alone, just on that very particular day, everyone needed seems to be busy with their life. It is quite ironic that when one wants to be left alone, they are flooded with suggestions, sympathies and empty words of comfort yet when one really needs them, they are left alone to deal with their misery. Such are the times when some realize the power of the Almighty. Continue reading

Don’t Play God. Don’t Judge Too Much.

Belum lama ini, saya curi-curi dengar obrolan beberapa orang di meja makan sebelah di salah satu tempat makan di Semarang. Salah satu cewek di kelompok itu bilang begini, “Rumah dia kemalingan pasti karena kurang banyak sedekahnya!”

Saya cukup kaget mendengarnya. Orang kena musibah kok, bukannya bersimpati malah dituduh yang bukan-bukan? Lagipula, dia itu kan bukan Tuhan, maka dari mana dia bisa tahu segala-galanya tentang amal-ibadah temannya itu?

Percakapan mereka mengingatkan saya dengan salah satu teman lama. Saat orang lain tertimpa musibah, dia akan langsung bilang, “Itu karmanya dia karena bla bla bla.” Tapi saat gantian dia sendiri yang sedang punya masalah, dengan entengnya dia cuma bilang, “Kesabaran saya sedang diuji sama Tuhan.” Continue reading

Cool Stuffs You Can Say When You’re Older

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Seriously, getting old is not always scary at all. There are many cool stuffs that you only can say out loud after you have enough experiences to say so (read: after you’re getting older!).

You need me to give you some examples? Here we go!

When you’re in an important meeting and you’ve got to introduce yourself, “Hi, I’m Heni. I have more than 2 years working experiences at bla bla bla.” The longer you’ve worked, the more awesome it sounds. Continue reading

Mulutmu, Harimaumu

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First of all, mari kita ingat kembali… Pernahkah kita melakukan 3 hal yang saya sebutkan di bawah ini?

Mulut tidak berhenti mengomentari berbagai detail dari pernikahan seorang teman… Makanan terlalu pedas, makanan sudah hampir habis, AC kurang dingin, kebersihan kurang terjaga, make-up si pengantin terlalu menor, dsb dsb… Setiap kali ketemu satu tamu lain yang kita kenal, mulut kita ini langsung sibuk melontarkan berbagai kekurangan dari pernikahan teman kita itu.

Kantor sedang mengadakan kegiatan rapat kerja tahunan, dan kita tidak henti-hentinya menggosipkan kinerja panitia raker. Pengumuman yang terlambat, instruksi yang kurang jelas, koordinasi yang kacau balau, acara ngaret lima belas menit, dst dst…

Atau saat sedang pergi berlibur dengan beberapa orang teman. Kita terus menerus mengungkapkan kekecewaan kita terhadap furniture hotel yang sudah tua, tour guide yang tidak pandai berbahasa Inggris, makanan yang rasanya aneh, sampai live show yang membosankan dan bikin ngantuk.

Pernahkah kita melakukan ketiga hal tersebut di atas? Continue reading

BYE BYE 2016

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It’s not the end of the year just yet, but this is the last post I’ll make for 2016. So as the sun sets on the past, let me share some parting wisdom to take us into 2017. Uhuuuuk!

Last night, while deleting some old pictures, I found this one. A blurry shot taken with a budget smartphone – it hardly looks like much. Yet, it was exactly what I needed to see.
What’s so special about this picture?

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#BunTingStory: Belajar Mengelola Keuangan Setelah Menikah

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Baru minggu pertama Desember tapi pengeluaran berdua sudah di atas 6,5 juta? Pppfftt.. Mengelola keuangan setelah menikah tentu lebih rumit daripada sebelum menikah. Setelah menikah, ada hal-hal yang harus ditambahi, dikurangi, dan dikompromikan. I know talking about money can be a little awkward; the goal of my post today is not to suggest that our way is the only way or to imply that we “have it all together” in every aspect of our life. It is simply to show some methods that have helped improve our financial picture and that are possible for everyone to try or consider.

Before I get into my list, though, I want to share my big, overarching secret with you when it comes to managing finances: It’s all about your mindset. SERIUS DEH! There have been times in my adult life where I have played the victim when it comes to our finances, thinking things like, “I wish we could just be normal. I want to go into one store and buy whatever I want without having to worry about shopping around for deals or staying under budget. I’m sick of tracking our spending,” etc., etc., etc.

And you know what?

I easily get off track when my mindset is negative. When I am excited about saving and meeting our financial goals, though, it almost ends up being like a fun game. It’s a challenge to see how much we can save and what we can do to improve our financial picture. Make it fun. Make it a challenge. Keep the big picture in mind, stay focused, and stay positive. That’s the real key to making this thing work.

Ini beberapa cara sederhana yang sudah kami aplikasikan dalam keluarga kecil #BunTingStory. Tentunya seiring berjalannya waktu ke depan pasti ada perubahan.

Ready to hear our secrets? Here we go!

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Keeping Myself Inspired and Happy On The Daily

It’s amazing how fast the days fly by, isn’t it? I’m pretty sure the older you get, the more time speeds up – every day is just a tiny bit shorter. Or maybe it’s all perspective. But it sure feels like we’re whipping past the days and weeks lately!

One of the most difficult parts of running your own show in your spare time (and the question I get asked more than any other) is how do you stay inspired and motivated to keep it going day after day?

Well, please know, first of all, that there are absolutely days when I don’t feel inspired. But there are things you can do to take full advantage of your creative spirit and keep the inspiration flowing for almost all of the time. Continue reading