Are you a mom dealing with a toddler who is highly inquisitive and is never done asking the same question for about ten thousand times? Are you losing your sanity to the ‘why’s’ and ‘what’s’ of things? Well, then you must read this article to understand about this peculiar toddler behaviour- repetitive questioning and know how we can deal with it.
That’s how my conversation sounds like with my two y.o toddler who keep asking the same question on loop for almost 10 thousand times, in spite of being given the same answer everytime.
Well, whoever said, raising kids requires a lot of patience wasn’t completely right! It not just requires patience, but also a hell lot of creativity, and an ability to answer the same thing in the most unique manner for the thousandth time! At least that’s what my two y.o toddler expects from me. Her curiosity just doesn’t seem to satiate with my simple answers and she pushes me to the brink of my creativity and at times my sanity too.
Chiara is highly observant and curious kids. I think most kids at her age are inquisitive by nature and want to know about everything that’s happening around them. As a parent it does feel good to see our kids growing to have a mind of their own and understanding things in their own unique way, however, there also comes a point when we tend to get intimidated not knowing how to handle this behavior.
I always thought kids resort to repetitive questioning in order to gain our attention but a bit of research on google made me know that there is more to this. There is a science behind this toddler behavior. I realised that –
- This specific behaviour is a part of their development process.
- Kids are naturally curious and find comfort in repeating and replaying questions. It’s their way of seeking emotional support and acknowledgement.
- At this age, they are trying to work on their speech, language, vocabulary, memory, etc, all together and so they need some time for all the information to register and sink in. Hence, they keep asking repeatedly.
SO…How To Deal With Repetitive Questioning By Toddler?
Frankly, I have practiced all methods to deal with this behaviour aspect. I have tried distraction and realises that only works temporarily. I have also tried to ignore her and choose not to respond after answering three or four times but that still doesn’t work. Most of the time it leaves the kids grumpy, frustrated resulting in further screaming and shouting.
So I started trying different other strategies and luckily some of them has been working well. Here is what I usually do-
- Answer in detail – I try to answer the question she asks in maximum detail. So the answer to ‘what is this‘, when pointing to a hanger is not just a simple ‘ it’s a blue colour hanger’ but more like ‘it’s a blue colour hanger on which we hang clothes and keep them in the wardrobe’ or ‘it’s the hanger on which we hang all your dresses and shirts and arrange in the wardrobe’. Providing extra information certainly helps in feeding her urge to know more.
- Encourage her to repeat words– I pick up a few words from my answers and encourage her to repeat it a few times, emphasizing on its tone, pronunciation and meaning. That helps she register new words while also verbally practicing them.
- A question for a question– Sounds tricky, but actually isn’t! So I answer her question with another question. ‘What is this‘ is usually followed by ‘what do you think it is’ or ‘what does it look like‘ or ‘which colour is this‘ , etc. This encourages her to start thinking on her own and make a few connections.
- Throw the same question back– After answering them a couple of times, I then try to ask the same question to her. Call it a revision of sorts, but this helps her to recollect and register what she have been hearing.
I realised repetitive questioning is a common behavior trait among toddlers that reflects their inquisitiveness and an ability to make sense of their environment. And so, it needs to handle appropriately by us, so that their curiosity is fed and they get a positive learning environment. The only key for parents is to stay patient, calm and just keep answering.
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