I have faced difficult situations in the past, but I have learnt something from all of these situations, and I want to share this in this post. I am aware that everyone’s situation is different, but I hope you can relate to some of the things I talk about.
Bad things happen regardless of situations, I think it’s what we learn from those situations that truly changes who we are as people. Some of the hardest things I’ve ever been through have been the making of who I am, and I wouldn’t ever want to change it. As people we are constantly evolving and changing, that’s why when people say to me “You’ve changed” I see it as a compliment. I don’t want to stay the same, I want to keep learning from my mistakes and grow from them.
I of course need to mention here that I don’t know your situations individually, and these are just my thoughts and lessons I have learnt myself from my own situations. If these don’t apply to you then I understand, we are all different and have been through different things.
So let’s get into it!
- ITS IMPORTANT TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
Sometimes you get into difficult situations for things that are not your fault at all, and sometimes you get into difficult situations for things that are your fault to an extent. However, in most cases there will be lessons you can learn from it. This is because it’s highly unlikely that you would have dealt with a hard situation perfectly. When I remember the difficult situations that I have faced, I remember the satisfaction that came out of overcoming it. But I also know that there were mistakes that I had made, and things that I could have done differently. I cannot stress how vital it is to learn from your mistakes, as it will that help you grow as a person but also help you massively if it happens again.
- SOME THINGS ARE JUST NOT IN YOUR CONTROL DURING DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
A lot of us beat ourselves up when we end up in difficult situations. We blame ourselves and think it is our fault that we got into that position in the first place. However, there are external factors that come into play that we have absolutely no control over. The point I want to make is that in life there are things that you simply don’t have much control or influence over, and it’s important to accept that.
- WE SOMETIMES UNDERESTIMATE OUR OWN ABILITIES
It has always been the case for me that a lot of my fears related to the future is related to the fact that I don’t think I would be able to cope or deal with a difficult and tricky situation when it arises. And then I tend to surprise myself in how well I end up dealing with a difficult situation when it comes along. In fact, I sometimes think that hard or stressful situations come my way to remind me that I am more resilient than I think I am!
If we all believe in our own abilities, and believe in ourselves to achieve the goals, then we will automatically have a more positive mindset. I do appreciate however that all of this is easier said than done, and it’s not a change you can suddenly do overnight.
- IT’S IMPORTANT TO VALUE THE PEOPLE THAT GENUINELY CARE FOR YOU
There are lots of people that would love to be around you and know you when things are going great for you. However, it’s only when you are going through a hard time where you get to see which of those people are genuine, as they are the ones that support you when the going gets tough.
It is really important to value the people that will stay by your side when things are hard, as those people are far and few between. For me, the difficult moments have shown me how supportive and caring my family are, and they have always been there for me without fail when I have needed them.
Difficult moments have also shown me who my true friends are. Valuing and showing your appreciation for the people that have been there in your low moments is also a great way to show gratitude, and this can help your wellbeing massively.
- A LOT OF THINGS GET PUT INTO PERSPECTIVE, WHEN YOU GO THROUGH DIFFICULT SITUATIONS
I think the best example that illustrates this for me was when I was struggling with my mental health at university. At times it got so bad that things like eating 3 meals a day or waking up on time became challenging. One thing that I learnt from struggling a lot with mental health is the importance of putting things into perspective. There are things that we spend lots of time fretting about which actually don’t matter. My poor mental health at university made things challenging for me on a daily basis, and could have had long term consequences if I didn’t do anything about it. Therefore, short-term worries like academics or job applications got put into perspective and suddenly didn’t feel important.
- DIFFICULT SITUATIONS HELP YOU TO GROW
It’s not until I have been through the difficult situation that I really notice how much it helped me to grow. It hurts and is uncomfortable going through it but the joy at the end is worth it all. I wouldn’t change the difficult things that have happened to me in my life because they have helped to shape me into the person I am today. A few years ago I was going through such a bad time with my mental health due to a job I had, and it was the worst year of my life, but now I’m through it I would never go back and change it. It was meant to happen to me, and it has helped me grow such a thick skin and helped me manage my anxiety better.
Sometimes we need the rain and the storm to help us to grow and flourish into the people we are meant to be.
- HEALING FROM THEM CAN TAKE TIME
If you break a bone you don’t expect it to heal in a day, do you? The same goes for you and your feelings/mental wellbeing. If a situation breaks you as a person (not physically but mentally) you need time to heal from it. And I am here to remind you there is no time scale on how long this may take. Only you know when you are starting to heal and feel better coming out from a difficult situation. You’re allowed to take as long as you need. Don’t be afraid to prioritise your healing over other things either, you need to feel better and it’s important that you do.
- YOU COME BACK BETTER THAN EVER
I have touched on this topic already but I think it’s important to mention in this post that going through hard times can really help you to bounce back and come back better than ever. Sometimes it’s the hardest things we go through that enable us to grow and become who we were meant to be. I’ve had friends and people I know go through some really tough stuff. They always mention how bad it was, but they also talk about the good that came out of it too.
Of course this cant apply to all types of situations, as I mentioned already I don’t know your circumstance but I hope and pray that you find peace through it and you grow from the situation. It’s so easy to let bad things take over us and we don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel, but there is. And this is your reminder to keep going.
This too shall pass.
- IT TEACHES YOU TO APPRECIATE THE GOOD
I hate that bad situations remind you to be grateful and appreciative of the good we have in our lives. We should appreciate the good all of the time. But none the less I think it’s important to mention here that going through something bad is like a reminder for us to look around and see the greatness we have too. Whenever I go through something negative or hard I always try to focus my energy and attention on things that are good and positive around me.
It can really help with perspective and might also help you get through the hard time you’re going through.
- BAD TIMES DON’T LAST FOREVER
And finally, my favourite reminder of all. Bad times don’t last forever, and believe me they don’t. When going through a difficult time, it can feel like it’s never going to end. It might last days, weeks, months or even years, but you will get through it. You are strong and mighty to get through anything that life throws at you, you’ve got this.
I really hope that this post is helpful if you’re going through something right now. Please never be afraid to reach out to people for support, I would be so happy to speak with you and try to help you in any way that I can. You are not alone.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT DURING DIFFICULT THINGS YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH?