Welcoming 2021 with My Reflections on 2020

The year 2020 is about to end and with the roller coaster ride of this year, this unpredictable year has changed me to some extent. Although I am optimistic about 2021.

A list of new vocabulary became the language of everyday. Corona, lockdown, isolation, positive, virus, pandemic, quarantine, vaccine and so on. Life has never been the same since.

The anger, frustration and helplessness of people spiked along with the cases worldwide.  It brought out emotions in mixed bag. Some counted on blessings and bonding while for others it was separation and desperation. Along with physical setback, emotional well being took a toll on people. With work from home and virtual classrooms, meet and greet, celebrations, everything was in an online avatar. Unlock brought in a breather for the economy. People are getting back to work, but fear still looms large. The vaccine coming out brings in a gentle ray of hope.

As we enter the last day of 2020, what are some of the thoughts and prayers that you want to fill in 2021 with? I would like to paint the coming year with vibrant hues of positive vibes.

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A Soulful Conversation with Myself

Finally, you have stolen some time out of your hectic schedule and decided to talk to yourself. It’s been a very long time that you met yourself, but good that you could squeeze out some time today and hope the whole conversation is going to be very interesting.

It’s been even more hectic all through this year with the pandemic in existence and you tried managing both personal and profesional commitments to the best of your capability, but is is still fine if your husband is wahing the dishes or your daughter is dusting the home. It’s their home too.

You always tried to be the first one to wake up early in the morning and start the engine, but it’s fine if it is your mother waking up early occasionally and handing over breakfast to you. You too deserve some pampering at times.

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Creating a Stress-Free Space

One of the rooms I love most in my house is my bedroom. I know it seems like this is the room most likely to stress me out, but is actually where I feel the most calm. Even when work is piling up, deadlines are nearing, and clients are throwing new projects at me faster than I can catch them, this is the room that ultimately gives me a great sense of peace.

I think it is the way I have it set up. I’ve managed to create this stress-free space that just envelopes me and let’s me know that everything will be okay. Here are a few things that have helped me create this feeling of calm, in case you want to try them out too.

  • Keep it organized. The more items I have lying around my desk or on the floor, the worse I feel. It’s like each item that is out of place is on my back, getting heavier and heavier as the day goes on. Take time regularly to organize your space and put things away. You’ll feel much better when you do.
  • Include items that make you smile. Ahhhh…. Think about what makes you smile and include these types of things in your stress-free space. It’s a great way to lift your soul.
  • Have a comfortable space to relax and re-energize. Speaking of the floor, I left the middle of my bedroom floor open so I have enough space to lie down and stretch or sit and read throughout the day. I’ve found that this is a great spot to sit and read when I’m not busy writing. It’s also a good place to go when I need a little break from work, but don’t want to get too far away. If you don’t have a lot of space, even a spot where you can put a thick pillow on the floor will do the trick. These two activities help center and re-energize me.
  • Make it all about YOU. Your stress-free space should be all about you. When you look at it, your first thought should be, “Yeeessss! I am finally home…” It may take some tweaking to get there, especially because what brings us comfort tends to change over time, but keep working at it and eventually you will have created a space that reminds you that, not matter what you’re going through, it will be okay.

If you know anything about me, you’ll know that I’m a control freak in the sense that I have to know what’s happening in my life at all times. Like, I can’t ever have anything just hanging in the air, I have to know where I stand – with people, with plans – everything. I’d say 50% of this is due to anxiety because I overthink everything and therefore have to know what’s always going on, and the other 50% is due to me just being an organised person in general – I like to know what’s what. I like to know what I’m doing. I always have to have everything planned out – whether that’s also due to anxiety…who knows. Either way, I’m going to look at it as a positive thing because if so, it means anxiety has essentially made me a very productive and organised person. Every cloud…

This also means I need structure in my life, otherwise I feel like I just wander around aimlessly having absolutely no idea what’s going on. I have to make lists. I’m a list person. I’m forever making notes and reminders of things I need to do and the order I need to do them in so that I can tick them off afterwards and stop thinking about them, I guess that’s another anxiety induced thing too. I overthink everything and therefore I have to get it down somewhere so that I can get it out of my brain, and once I’ve completed it I can tick it off and remove that thing from my brain as one less thing I need to worry about. That was the whole premise for this blog in a way, too. Anyway, I’m rambling.

There’s lots of things going on in my life these days and so I end up making lists daily, weekly and monthly so that I can plan everything out in advance and stay on track (otherwise I freak out and feel like I have no idea what I’m doing, but what’s new).

Of course, the last point is essentially leisure time – I like to catch up on Youtube, social commitments etc. but that still takes time in itself. And then of course there’s other unexpected things you have to factor into the mix like emergencies or sick days and of course, you can’t pre-plan for those. Basically, I have absolutely no time to be doing anything at all and so literally planning my life out has now become essential.

So big news everyone! I re-opened my online shop @bunc.project … Hoorraaayy!. I launched three weeks ago and feedback has been overwhelming. It’s back breaking work but I am enjoying every minute of it. Feel free to follow along over on Instagram and look out for random blurps over here! Thank you to everyone who continue to support me and we look forward to sharing all of our products with you. Thank you for stopping by!

Basically, my life is now crazy. Would I have it any other way? No. And I’m definitely not complaining. It’s chaotic but I love it and it keeps me occupied – it makes me feel like I’m doing something which, I am. But I have to make sure I stay on top of everything and so it’s now a case of planning out each day and week so that my brain doesn’t explode and go into meltdown.

There’s so much going on right now I don’t even know where to focus first but it’s fun, and I’m proud of myself for not falling behind (yet). Stay tuned to see how that unfolds…

All my love,

Heni