LESSONS LEARNED FROM 2 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

Last month marked 2 years of being married to my wonderful husband and I am so thankful to be his wife. Our first 2 years of marriage was interesting and challenging. Marriage brought out our best strengths and weaknesses.

It doesn’t matter whether you dated 3 weeks or 7 years before getting married, your spouse will constantly surprise you with something new.

So here’s a little breakdown of what I’ve learned so far.

1) LOVE, PATIENCE AND RESPECT IS KEY

Love is patient, love is kind. But when you’re faced with the world’s challenges every day, how much of that do you really apply in your own life? 

I married my husband because I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Although these past 2 years was tough as nails, we never forgot a day to tell each other “I love you”. But is telling each other “I love you” enough?

Every marriage takes a lot of work. Like, A LOT. You probably need to re-assess your marriage if you don’t feel like you’re working hard enough. Marriage is more than just saying “I love you” to your spouse. Marriage takes a lot of patience and respect, too.

2) THE BEST TEAMMATE YOU WILL EVER HAVE IS YOUR SPOUSE

When you are in a marriage, you will learn quickly that your spouse is the best teammate you’re ever going to get. He or she will complement your strength and weaknesses, making you the best duo out there. Your spouse’s knowledge of who you are and vice versa will benefit your marriage. 

Don’t take your spouse for granted, ever. If you do, or notice that you have, apologize quickly and stay humble.

3) TRANSPARENCY

If there was anything to describe our first 2 years of marriage, it would be BUSY. Both my husband and I were so busy. Insecurity got the best of me and it caused a lot of problems in my marriage. 

Too soon, huh? Unfortunately, it’s the reality. Our reality.

By being transparent with my husband, its opened so many doors for conversation for the both of us.

4) PRAY TOGETHER 

The most powerful thing you can do for your marriage is pray together. Pray together even if you don’t like it. Pray together even if you’re fighting. There’s something about hearing your spouse pray about the things in their heart. 

5) BUT CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR EACH OTHER

However, don’t wait or depend on praying together. You have the ability, as an individual to continually pray for your marriage, for your spouse and everyone else that matters to your heart. Remember that we all have our own relationships with The Lord.

6) GO BACK TO THE BASICS

When your marriage hits a rough patch, there will be times of feeling helpless. Don’t talk bad about your spouse to anyone, but don’t hesitate to ask advice from those you look up to. 

Go back to the basics. Remind yourself why you got married in the first place. Remind yourself why God brought you together.

Although marriage has not been what I imagined, I am grateful for what my husband and I experienced in our first 2 years of marriage. It’s allowed us to work with each other and slowly build a firm foundation that will carry us on through our marriage. 

To my husband, I love you. I appreciate every single thing you do for our family and I am so sorry for all the times I did not appreciate you. I love being your wife and I’m so lucky to have you as my husband. Always going to love you more 😉

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