LESSONS LEARNED FROM 2 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

Last month marked 2 years of being married to my wonderful husband and I am so thankful to be his wife. Our first 2 years of marriage was interesting and challenging. Marriage brought out our best strengths and weaknesses.

It doesn’t matter whether you dated 3 weeks or 7 years before getting married, your spouse will constantly surprise you with something new.

So here’s a little breakdown of what I’ve learned so far. Continue reading

Pregnancy Journey: I’m Pregnant + My First Trimester Story

Ok, so this blog comes a little late. I’m now 13 weeks and 2 days pregnant, meaning I’m well into my second trimester. That’s right guys!!! I’m pregnant! I can’t even tell you how relieved I am just share this news with all of you. I don’t know if you noticed over the past few months, but I kept talking on Instagram story.

So today, I thought I’d share an honest little recap of what my first trimester was like.

It took us almost 2 years to get pregnant and stay pregnant. Typing it out right now, that number doesn’t seem very long. I mean, most chapters of life—whether school-related, professional or personal—last longer than that. And I know that many couples battle to get pregnant for years and years and years, and a number like 2 might be laughable to them.

But I will say that those years were the longest of my life. We started out how most couples start out: “not not trying.” And when nothing happened, we started “trying trying.” You know: taking vitamins, altering lifestyles, etc. And when nothing came from that, we kind of just floated along, too scared to take the next step.

The darkest part of the journey, though, was my miscarriage last year. Continue reading

It’s Okay To Feel Lost In Your Twenties

Growing up, I always thought that I’d be happy when I reached my twenties. It seemed like such a grown-up number. People in their twenties were young, carefree… They could do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted because they were adults. Parents couldn’t tell them what to do anymore.

Since reaching this oh-so-magical time in my life, I realise that things are a bit more complicated than I initially thought they would be. Even though I really hate using the term “complicated” to describe life, you should all know it’s accurate, nevertheless. The reality is that we can’t just waltz off and do whatever we want. We all have responsibilities – and if we don’t have responsibilities, we need money to get anywhere. This was something I never had to think about as a child. I don’t think I would have been able to understand it, anyway.

So here I am, in my late twenties, wondering if I’m living my life wrong. Deep down I still think that I should be happy simply because I’m supposedly “grown-up” and young. I think this feeling is often reinforced by other members of society – particularly, though not always, an older crowd that has the best of intentions.

I don’t understand where the concept of being carefree in your twenties even comes from. At this point in time, we’re still trying to figure out what we want from life and how to go about getting it. At times, we question the decisions we’ve made – should we have chosen differently? Continue reading

Hey There!

Hey there, lonely soul. Hello. Welcome to my mind. Well, maybe you’re not so lonely. Maybe you’re curious. Or you want to read something. Or you’re just bored. Maybe you’re here for the first time. Maybe you’re trying to judge me. Maybe you want to know me. Maybe you’re just trying to get through unread posts on your reader.

Well, so here we are. In my mind. I’ll give you a tour, eh? I won’t take you everywhere. Just where it’s safe. And I don’t have to worry about you prying around, either. So go ahead. Picture my mind any way you want. Let’s go down this lane.

It’s a battle keeping up with these word prompts. A battle with time. And my mind.

I have so much to do. And I want to read more, too. And I have to think about what I’m going to do with my life. Also, I’ve set unrealistic goals for the weekend (again) which shall go unfulfilled (again) and that shall leave me annoyed. It’s not my fault. The mind has been whispering. Doubts, fears.

The mind is uneasy. Everyday is another battle. To keep that balance between thinking and not think.

I want to exercise. Mind, soul and body. I want to get up earlier and be productive.

I want a change of routine. I want this endless road to bend. I want something that would excite me, something that would inspire. My words have been kind to me. Never do they leave the mind. I have been neglecting them, I know. They have been starting to get quite difficult of late. They, too, want a change of expression. Rebellious, ungrateful. They never even realize how much I do for them. However, ‘I’  in turn must not be ungrateful. They are a blessing, they could be taken away any time. I must cherish them.

It is another battle to see the same people every day, to disagree on the same things, to put up with the same ignorance and backwardness and still be nice. Apart from family, and that too only the most direct relations, how much sooner one tires of human company than of anything else. Cats, independent, detached creatures, infinitely cleverer than us (Though only metaphorically).

It is also a battle to be good. Evil tempts you. No matter how much one tries to purify one’s heart, it will always remain contaminated. No matter how much you try, you have been too infected. It is a battle to be kind. Especially those who don’t deserve it. But God knows you’re a monster inside, and if you start classifying and judging people, He could call you out on it.

It’s a battle to be. Continue reading

Be Careful With Your Words

Hi there lovelies. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride.

Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. How do you cope when feeling like you can’t? What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?

I have been having problems with a friend who I think is a complete jerk. I’ve tried to be mature about it but can’t help being angry everytime I see him and consumed by negative emotions. I get upset when someone use bad words for me. What should be my reaction at that time?

Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.
– Aristotle

But as Aristotle said – it’s not about getting angry, it’s about getting angry in the right way. And in most situations, keeping your cool is better for you, and produces better results.

Anger was really driving me crazy but now i am managing it a bit .You are sure to bump onto difficult people/situations then it’s helpful to take a deep breath and detach yourself physically / mentally from the situation. Continue reading

Break The Rules

*Warning this post may contain moments of rambling. My thoughts decided to have a tennis match in my head today. LOL

Sometimes in life, you have to disobey the rules. Now I don’t mean that laws that govern us and dictate how not to be a horrible human being. Although history has shown some of these same very rules, and laws have discriminated and disadvantaged several individuals. If that is not proof enough that we should not blindly follow certain rules,  I don’t know what is. I am specifically speaking about the ”rules ” as perceived by others.

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Now I must admit I am quite stubborn and do not take orders very well . Especially ones I do not agree with. Just ask my last two managers; Managers just love opinionated workers don’t they? Continue reading

I Have Been Guilty of Settling

How many of you guys out there have been guilty of settling? Raise your hands. I have been guilty of this far too many times. Remember when you were younger and your mother said not to touch the hot stove and you did ?. Sometimes you know better but hey you do things anyway.
Is it laziness? Is it a feeling not being good enough? Why do we settle?

My interpretation of settling is simple. It means putting up with less than you deserve. When you entertain people, thoughts,  emotions and circumstances that are not aligned with your true beliefs or goals. Basically, things that have no positive effect on personal growth.

After a little self-reflection,  I have determined three reasons why I have settled in the past and what I have learnt. Let me know if you can relate. Continue reading

JUNE IN SNAPSHOTS & A THOUGHT ON SLOW LIVING

Hi, there lovelies … Happy and blessed Sunday to all of you beautiful souls!

Something about Sundays reverberates quiet reflection for me. For some it is a day of worship, for others, it just screams fun in the sun. If you are lucky you have the day off from work. Whatever your Sunday entails; how about you ask yourself today, What can I do to make life better for me? Be totally selfish. You deserve it. Somehow our souls always have the answers, we know what needs to be done but yet we often times feel guilty about saying no or maybe just disappearing for a few hours for a recharge.

Take a few minutes today to do something that brings you joy. Absolutely no excuses. Even if it is just buying yourself an ice cream cone and pretending that you are a toddler again with not a care in this world. Simply reflect on this past week and what made it great, even if it wasn’t so great to use your imagination it can lead you to some wonderful places. Continue reading

Djajanti House, Penginapan Rasa Rumah Sendiri di Jantung Kota Semarang

Libur lebaran jadi momen yang pas untuk menghabiskan waktu bersama keluarga, begitu pun dengan saya dan suami. Di sela-sela libur lebaran kemarin, saya dan suami sempat staycation sebentar di Kota Semarang. Iya di SEMARANG aja karena minggu terakhir ramadhan sampai lebaran hari pertama ada di mertua, jadi lebaran hari kedua giliran sama keluarga di Semarang.

Jadi, penginapan yang akan saya review kali ini memang bukan penginapan yang terbilang baru di Semarang, tapi saya baru sempat nyobain nyh. Dari komen-komen di media sosial ketika beberapa waktu lalu saya posting foto soal penginapan ini juga ternyata banyak yang belum tahu. Pas deh buat direview barangkali ada yang tertarik dan mau coba juga kan ya.

Selamat datang di Djajanti House!

Gag tahu kenapa makin ke sini saya makin suka dengan hotel yang unik dan berkarakter gitu. Gag harus mewah syh buat tempat menginap, tapi yang bisa menawarkan user experience yang beda yang lebih menarik buat saya. Alhasil terpilihlah Djajanti House ini buat dicoba. Sayang sekali saya sampai di Semarang ketika sudah petang, jadi gag sempat foto suasana kamar saat masih rapi deh. Begitu sampai kamar lihat kasur langsung rebahin badan dan barang-barang soalnya. Continue reading

Holika Holika Aloe 99% Soothing Gel Review

Halo!

Kali ini saya lagi pengen nulis yang ringan-ringan aja deh. Lama juga gag nulis soal produk kecantikan. Ya…secara saya bukan beauty blogger juga, cuma seneng berbagi info barangkali ada yang membutuhkan. Soal make up saya memang gag terlalu tertarik, tapi kalo soal skin care saya tertarik banget. Untuk saya pribadi, skin care lebih sering saya pakai syh daripada make up. Bahkan kerja pun saya jarang pake make up kecuali ada meeting atau ketemu orang penting. Cukup pake sunscreen kadang udah lebih dari cukup buat saya. Hahaha…kebangetan gag syh???

If you follow Korean trends in both beauty and fashion (even K-pop), you’ll find that Aloe Vera gel is a very popular product used by celebrities, gurus and normal people alike. The most famous one among all the aloe vera gels in the market would be Nature Republic Aloe Vera 92% (NR). Tapi….saya gag bakal bahas si NR ini, karena saya sudah menemukan aloe vera gel yang lebiiiiih cocok buat saya, yaitu HOLIKA HOLIKA ALOE 99% SOOTHING GEL ! Telat banget gag syh baru ngereview sekarang padahal boomingnya dari kemarin-kemarin?! Sebenarnya sengaja syh baru ngereview sekarang karena saya pengen bandingin beberapa produk dulu.

Ada yang udah pernah coba Holika Holika Aloe 99% Soothing Gel?

Kenapa syh saya lebih memilih si Holika Holika Aloe 99% Soothing Gel? Hmmm….ini pendapat pribadi saja ya, semua dikembalikan ke orang masing-masing.

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