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Some DAYS are like that

I generally need a quiet environment to write. It helps me to flesh out what I want to put into written word. But honestly, that is not why I am here right now. I am here because I just can’t “people” right now. I love to be around people, love making connections, love the energy of groups. But there are times, when people are too much. The energy isn’t good energy. People are unkind, inconsiderate, and sometimes just generally suck. When I have too many of those encounters back to back, I know the joy is being sucked from my soul.

I was really having an awful day. So, between my anger, I remembered the children’s book, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. Judith Viorst wrote the book and Ray Cruz illustrated it in 1972. If you have never read it, you must. If you don’t have your own personal copy, you need to get one. And get the hard copy, I think those are more special.

I don’t want to spoil the book for you if you haven’t read it, so if you don’t have a copy, here is a YouTube link to the reading of the book with illustrations, it is only 7 minutes. Watch it now, I will pause my story until you have watched.

​Yeah Alexander had a really crappy day. We all can relate to a grown-up version to a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. I think the last line of the book is the reason I loved it so much.

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Naik Gunung Tanpa Ribet? Yuk Jelajah Gunung Telomoyo dengan Jeep.

Apakah kamu kaum mager tapi lagi ingin menikmati susasana gunung? Apakah kamu ingin naik gunung tapi males capeknya? Mungkin Gunung Telomoyo bisa jadi pilihannya.

Weekend kemarin, saya sekeluarga berkesempatan mencicipi indahnya Gunung Telomoyo dengan jeep. Mendadak piknik ceritanya. Sabtu sore si suami baru tercetus ajakan main ke Kopeng, habis maghrib langsung deh cabut dari Kota Semarang menuju Kopeng. Rencananya kami memang akan menginap di Kopeng sebelum bertolak ke Gunung Telomoyo esoknya. Kopeng rasanya menjadi destinasi yang pas untuk kami saat itu karena relatif dekat dari Semarang dan juga pemandangan pegunungannya yang indah. Cocoklah untuk jiwa-jiwa rindu hawa dingin pegunungan seperti saya tapi gag sempet naik gunung beneran. Hehehe

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First post of 2022

It’s Saturday. I’m working on this blog post NOW. Yeah, I know. It’s late.

Excuses

Ideas: Not the issue. I had some ideas. I have an ongoing list so as to never run out of content. But, even with a rough draft sitting on my desk top from the week I didn’t have that “holy crap! I better get this done” feeling.
Writer’s block: No. I don’t believe in writer’s block. I didn’t have writer’s block. Like I said, I even had some rough drafts ready to go.
Pressing business: I didn’t have super pressing things to do.
Social life: Some, but nothing excessive.

What’s busy good for any how?

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First Camping with a Toddler

Camping is a great way to spend quality time with your family and get back to nature. But camping can also be frustrating, especially when you’re trying to plan for kids who have never gone camping before. When your little one starts hitting the terrible twos, and threes take them to nature. Mentally, it can be hard to imagine a tantrum in a crowded campground but what you all experience is priceless.

Recently we had a chance to go on camping adventure with our 31 m.o daughter. We knew what to expect and it went quite well.

It seems that every outdoors enthusiast who has kids, has one goal: to get their kids to love the outdoors as much as they do. This is probably true not just for outdoors people but also sports fans, various athletes or anyone with a serious hobby.

So it is not a surprise that I really hope my kids will love being outdoors, at least as much as I do. I have been waiting to take my daughter camping ever since she was born (maybe even before).

Raising a toddler is a full on roller coaster, day-to-day and even hour-to-hour. They are happy, then mad and everything in between. After some time, we all learn some tricks to tame the tantrums and we move on with our day. Imagine taking this show on the road and confined to a tent can be a mental stretch, but it’s worth it and I’ve learned that camping with a toddler is worth the few “moments” in between.

First of all, WHY drive hours into the mountains, with a little one to hang around some trees and sleep on the ground? I can’t answer that for everybody, but for myself and for my family, it’s a big part of our childhood and we wanted to keep the tradition alive. There is an amazing feeling raising kids and seeing things through their eyes for the first time. Camping is loaded with new experiences for them.

While it’s easy to think of ways to teach our kids to do laundry or solve math problems, finding a way to instill important character traits isn’t as simple. The way we model traits we want our children to exhibit has a powerful influence on them, and some traits (kindness, gratitude, and generosity) they learn first and foremost from parents.

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Idle Time. Sometimes Fire, Sometimes Ice.

Uuhhhmm… I didn’t write much last month.  I couldn’t write.  Both hands were busy just hanging on. First things first: This blog exists mostly for myself. It exists because I was looking for means that would coerce me to write more — and better. See, nowadays we use written communication as much as never before, but I’d argue that at the same time the quality of our writing is in deterioration. At least, for me it is.

So now I’m trying to get better at writing, hoping that on the one side being more proficient at it would bring back some of the pleasure in doing it, and on the other hand for the practical reason that being able to write well is a tremendously useful skill.

Ahh…I’ve got a lot going on.  I can’t really write about it all but it’s really nothing a bunch of money, time, energy, wisdom and divine intervention can’t take care of. I’m overwhelmed. I’d like to get back to the days of just being whelmed. But, I suppose God didn’t build me for being light of heart and free of cares.

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[Book Review] Secrets of Divine Love: A Spiritual Journey into the Heart of Islam by A. Helwa

My introduction to the book entitle “Secret of Divine Love” is through few excerpt that I read in Instagram. Got curious to know more…therefore, I bought it. Starting with Bismillah, I read through and took my time to reflect and ponder on many of the context in Islam and about Allah (my MAKER) that I never knew. I read few lines, I reflect and I cried..just understanding that my soul, which is within me .. is something special and it is from Allah and part of Allah overwhelmed me.

This book provide me with an understanding through another beautiful lens – the love of Allah, loving myself and HIS creation.

The introduction already amazed me when I’m start reading. I can say I highlights few sentences almost in all pages and it helps me especially when I’m in hardship and sadness besides Qur’an. I became uplifting back after look at the highlight. I really love the explanation from the author and make me become open-minded in many things. Alhamdulillah.

The way A. Helwa explain certain issue really made me think. This book is worth the read. You really need to buy one to read as it would be understatement to just make a review; I may not be able to give justice how great this book is.

Alhamdulillah, A. Helwa writing has touched every inch of my hurting soul, and has helped me see life in better perspective. A. Helwa’s style of writing is easy flowing and gentle, and as we go through the chapters she addresses greater issues and deeper aspects of Islam and our relationship with Allah that we are responsible of taking care of. A much needed reminder, this piece, and a great book as a gift as well. Everything is gold. Reading it answered all my spiritual questions and it did changed my perspective. I highly recommend everyone to have a copy.

Even it takes a very long journey to end my reading but I feel worth it. Many things that have been explained inside this book make me realized how Allah is the real love that we need to be grateful the most.

I’ve cried so many tears, lingered on so many pages. It‘s one of my new most precious possessions, a book I‘ll try to come back to once in awhile to remind myself that I‘m loved & valued by no other than God Himself. I‘m struggling for the right words right now, so I just want to thank the author & God for opening my eyes again to the beauty of my religion, the value of life & to the Divine Love of The Almighty.

“In fact, it has been said that the distance between our head and our heart is approximately 18 inches, but it is arguably the longest journey we will spiritually ever take”. Secrets of Divine Love by A. Helwa

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Balance: Build an Emotional Connection with Our Daughter

My husband and I are both full time workers and have one kid. Balancing everything and keeping everything in check can be hard sometimes. So many times I get to thinking and don’t keep what’s important in front of me. Than my husband reminds me our kid need us more than any job. She come first. Our mental health comes first. We have to take care of her so she can get better so we can get better also. Balancing is hard to do, and waht makes it easier to balance is having an awesome partner to balance it out wit! My husband and I make a great team. I’m one lucky woman.

Being a mother to an active 2 y.o has shown me a side of my personality, I never knew existed. Having my daughter, perhaps, gives me an insight into her world leading to a deeper empathy and understanding for her behaviour. This is an account of what I sensed in my interaction with my daughter in my neighbourhood.

Children are more flexible than we make them out to be.They have a natural resilience and flexibility to adapt to situations. They live in the moment without grudges, are happy and cheerful. They know within themselves that nature has excellent healing properties. It not only heals the body, but the mind and soul as well.

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Book Review: What I Know For Sure by Oprah Winfrey

I have always admired Oprah Winfrey and the difference she has made in so many lives.  She shows honesty, vulnerability, spirituality and wisdom.  When I saw her book at the marketplace, I thought it might be a good read, but wasn’t expecting the degree of insights this woman shared.  

This is a book review for, ‘What I Know for Sure‘ by Oprah Winfrey. Oprah Winfrey is amongst the most powerful names in the world. She is a living example of what a person can become if they simply have the zeal to be. Thank God that she made notes of her journey so far and decided to put them together in her book, What I Know For Sure.

Though the book was first published in the year 2014, I only got a chance to read it yesterday. 

You’ve got to love Oprah! In my eyes, Oprah does no wrong. In her book, What I Know for Sure, Oprah Winfrey shares some great wisdom that will surely leave you motivated and raring to go.

I must confess, when I read this book, I didn’t know what to expect. And, I must say that I wasn’t disappointed at all. By the time I finished reading, it felt like Oprah was sitting in front of me, ready for an embrace. She also had a way of making me feel like I was sitting next to a good friend, who understood my journey. Some of the topics she discusses are possibility, gratitude, connection, and power.

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Book Review: The Secret Garden

The Secret Garden written by Frances Hodgson Burnett, is one of those books I’ve been wanting to read for ages. It’s an endearing story about two lonely and spoiled children who slowly discover how much better life can be if they decide to explore the gardens. 

The Secret Garden is, of course, a children’s book, but I had never read it as a child. One of the pleasures of reading it as an adult is to enjoy the simple, easy-to-read, style of it. The simple style, though, hides an intricate story with more than one mystery, characters with complex psychology and concealed themes. 

Burnett, I felt, shows considerable storytelling skill in choosing when to say very little and when to let the story bloom with details. I also appreciated her grasp of the speech and mannerisms of the child characters.

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Fun Activities for Child

“Is it easier for you to work from home since you have just the one daughter?”

This well-meaning remark actually made me stop and think. Really, is it easier for me? Well, actually it may seem easier but in reality, it is no different.

While the challenges of multiple kids are definitely many, the challenges of an only child aren’t any less. You see, when you have an only child, he or she does not have siblings to hang out with, squabble with or basically, grow up with.

She has YOU.

Keeping an only child engaged and entertained while you try to juggle work, home and other odd jobs in your life as mom needs a fair amount of planning and thinking.

I’ve needed to come up with a few ways to keep our daughter occupied while we work:

{While I use these ideas to keep my only child engaged, I’m sure you can use them just as well with multiple kids as well.}

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